Understanding Low Self-Esteem.

Low self-esteem is generally a mental condition that makes you have a low self-worth. You often feel that you are incapable of accomplishing challenging things. The condition is attributed with several mental conditions. They feed each other in vicious circle that leaves more anxious and depressed. Your opinion and you ability also keeps going down because you start losing confidence.  This leads to gradual development of an attitude to evade activities that can help in building esteem and countering anxiety of depression. Keep reading for more tips regarding low self-self esteem.

Low self-esteem cannot be blamed on an individual being bad. If you are suffering from real low self-esteem, confidence and self image you are likely to have had contact in the past with criminals, bullies, child abusers and narcissists. There is a misconception that people with low self esteem are the ones who mistreat others. On the contrary, people with high self esteem are not abusers or bullies. Low self esteem persons are unique kind of persons who treats themselves badly and not others. They only lack self worth for their life.

Some people assume that low self esteem do cause criminality. On the contrary, over self-esteem creates extreme confidence in people making them behave weirdly.  A lot of research has been done that has shown that countless criminals and bullies suffer from excess self confidence that in turn makes them to exaggerate the unrealistic sense of entitlement. They expect too much from several situations.

There are some general characteristics that are attributed to people suffering from low self esteem. Among them include: social withdrawal, emotional and anxiety turmoil, less social conformity, lack of self confidence and social skills, depression and bouts of sadness, inability to accept gratitude, eating disorders, complementing the negative, incapability to view yourself in a positive aspect, self neglect, overstated concern regarding what you think other take you for, neglecting yourself, treating yourself badly (but not other people), dragging your feet to combat challenges, excessive concern whether you have treated other people well, expecting minimal returns from your life and inability to trust yourself.

Victims of child abuse, either physically or emotionally, have high chances of succumbing to low self esteem when they grow up. The constant criticism and comment that they look or are a certain way haunts them in their entire life. Sexual abuse, unfavorable comparison to others and being given extremely high standard are other things that can lead to development of low self esteem. The post traumatic stress disorder from past mistreatment requires being deal with so that the patient can develop self esteem once more.

Bombarding a person suffering from low self esteem with positive encouragement does not work.  The positive statement actually becomes more destructive if you are trying to make them feel capable of accomplishing certain things in life. For instance, telling you that you are lovely and wonderful when you already have poor image about yourself will simply not yield any positive results. Being `too good’ to patients suffering from low esteem can also push them away. The best way to help them improve is letting them `face real life’. The victory they will get will help them to develop the high esteem.